Listen and Share
Over the past couple of weeks, we’ve been preparing for Gateway to Galesburg, a Knox College fair designed to help students get acquainted with local nonprofits and businesses. It’s a fantastic event, and I had been dreaming of approaching it in a certain way. The plan was to bring the popcorn machine and hand out popcorn—no brochures, no gimmicks, just a simple way to connect.
At the last minute, though, the popcorn idea fell apart. But our congregation came through with something even better: piles of homemade cookies—all different kinds—plus cold cups of ice water.
Those of us who were there that day simply met students where they were. We asked about their classes, where they’re from, their majors, and what they love about Knox or Galesburg. Two things stood out: first, students overwhelmingly love being in Galesburg; second, many already knew about our church. Nearly every student either recognized our location or had been here for Blessings in a Backpack.
A centerpiece of what we shared was our McBride Music Fellowship program and other music ministries. With Sue Vilardo there, students interested in music had a chance to talk with her directly about their passions and opportunities.
This experience was a model of what I hope we continue to do. A student isn’t likely to come to church just because they received the right information. They’re much more likely to connect with a congregation that first goes to them. When you talk with people about church, here are three simple steps:
- Listen first. Learn a little about them before inviting them.
- Share personally. Tell them what you most love about church—not just what you think they should like.
- Invite warmly. Don’t be afraid to ask them to church, but go a step further: offer to pick them up, meet them at the door, or sit with them.
That’s how true connections begin.
—Dr. Carnes